Coping with Separation or Divorce will affect you in every aspect of your life.
Lifetime friends will be forced to choose between you and your ex. Others will feel divorce is contagious and dump both of you. Since the essence of woman are relationships and the essence of a man is work there will be significant differences in the separation or divorce process. One study in men’s magazine stated that divorced men have higher rates of mortality, substance abuse and depression and less social support to fall back on then women. women tend to be sad while men tend to be angry.
In a word, no. These behaviors often point to a man’s attempt at avoiding his feelings about the divorce and lack of coping skills. In general men seem to focus on externals : financial and legal matters. Many seem to quickly find new partners or simply resolve to not getting too close ever again. Seems like there’s a lack of attention to what goes on the inside and the result is blindly going into another relationship with all the same baggage or just continue Despite it’s prevalence, divorce is extremely painful for all members of the family. According to the US Census Bureau almost half of marriages end in divorce, and one-third of all breakups occur within the first 5 years.of marriage-the time when most coupes start families. Divorce is a highly stressful and life changing event. The sheer volume of legal, emotional and logistical issues that need to be addressed are monumental.
From the outside men seem to get over divorce more quickly than women. They start dating more quickly. They start having sex more quickly. But are these behaviors really signs that they have moved through the pain of divorce? Divorce is a highly stressful and life changing event. The sheer volume of legal, emotional and logistical issues that need to be addressed are monumental. It turns out that in the age-old battle of the sexes, men seem to be having a more difficult time coping with the dissolution of a marriage. According to a recent study from the Journal of Men’s Health, divorced men are more susceptible to heart disease high blood pressure, and strokes than married men are – in addition to being 39 percent more likely to commit suicide and engage in risky behavior. Men report that after divorce they are taking blood pressure medicine for the first time in their life. Coping skills are not a strong suit.
According to the US Census Bureau almost half of marriages end in divorce, and one third of all breakups occur within the first 5 years of marriage – the time when most coupes start families. Coping skills counseling where men are taught how to understand their feelings has been shown to improve men’s health without medication.
Though there is no “cure” for these feelings, there are some good and healthy ways to cope with them so as to suffer as little as possible, and to gain wisdom, compassion and strength from having gone through the experience. The emotional coping process starts with allowing one’s self the freedom to grieve and ends with moving on with one’s life.
DR LEVIN SPECIALIZES IN TEACHING COPING SKILS SO FAMILY MEMBERS CAN REBOUND AND REBUILD FROM SEPARATION AND DIVORCE
Marriage is serious business in our Country. Half of US marriages end in divorce and one-third of all breakups occur within the first five years of marriage-the time when most couples start families. Divorce is a highly stressful and life changing event. The sheer volume of legal, emotional and logistical issues that need to be addressed are monumental and take a toll on all participants to the divorce. Men, women, and children cope very differently from separation or divorce. For example, men have a more difficult time coping with the dissolution of a marriage. According to a recent study from the Journal of Men’s Health, divorced men are more susceptible to heart disease high blood pressure, and strokes than married men are in addition to being 39 percent more likely to commit suicide and engage in risky behavior. Men report that after divorce they are taking blood pressure medicine for the first time in their life. A woman may suffer financially after a divorce particularly if she is the primary caregiver to the children. Without her husband’s salary, she will have less money to cover bills and household expenses. Divorce may leave a woman feeling hurt, lonely and unhappy. Even if it was her choice to end the marriage she may bear the scars of the relationship for a long time. Divorced women report significantly higher psychological distress levels than married women in the years following the divorce. The stresses of being in an unhappy marriage may simply be replaced by different worries, such as not being able to trust a man again, struggling to find her perfect partner or a fear of being rejected. The following warning signs of are serious for children and should be brought up to their pediatrician, teachers, or a therapist. Sleep problems and nightmares, depression which may manifest in anger, self-injury, eating disorders, withdrawal from loved ones, and refusal to participate in previously enjoyed activities. Similar to men and women boys and girls cope differently during separation or divorce.